Awhile back, I was asked to write a summary of my thoughts about the importance of self-care for families and loved ones of people with addiction. It’s become a mantra:
Addiction, although a proven brain disease, crosses the line of physical science. It is a prison of the mind that steals free will. Although lying, stealing, manipulation and all the lot of addiction symptoms are just that- symptoms- when those symptoms are played out on us, the loved ones- they are traumatic, life events for us because they are, in real life, grievous injustices that perpetrate to the core of a person’s being.
As addiction continues, so the trauma continues, too. We, us, the loved ones, will continue to experience the reaction to trauma of addiction- co-dependency, enabling and the like, unless and until we address it, fight it and arrest it.
But how? How do we recover? An excerpt from a reading sums it up: “When we discover that self-therapy isn’t so therapeutic after all, we need to take advantage of the therapeutic value of one person working Recovery helping another.” The key to healing and Recovery is self-care by way of our shared road with one another.
We truly do Recover Together.