Awhile back, I was asked to write a summary of my thoughts about the importance of self-care for families and loved ones of people with addiction. It’s become a mantra:
Addiction, although a proven brain disease, crosses the line of physical science. It is a prison of the mind that steals free will. Although lying, stealing, manipulation and all the lot of addiction symptoms are just that- symptoms- when those symptoms are played out on us, the loved ones- they are traumatic, life events for us because they are, in real life, grievous injustices that perpetrate to the core of a person’s being.
As addiction continues, so the trauma continues, too. We, us, the loved ones, will continue to experience the reaction to trauma of addiction unless and until we address it, fight it and arrest it.
But how? How do we recover? An excerpt from a reading sums it up: “When we discover that self-therapy isn’t so therapeutic after all, we need to take advantage of the therapeutic value of one person working Recovery helping another.” The key to healing and Recovery is self-care by way of our shared road with one another.
We truly do Recover Together.